Man Among Boys

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I was sneaker shopping for my son when I came across these Nike “men’s” sneakers.  Be forewarned, if I see a man with these on the street, I’m slappin’ the literal sh*t out of you.  And the funny thing is, you won’t even need to ask why…you already know you wrong.

As always, I encourage you to comment, but there’s really not much you can say.  These are just not manly. Period.  End of story.

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I was watching a report on ESPN about Antoine Walker, former NBA player and All-Star.  It was a sad story, really.  Life was supposed to be sweet for a 13 year veteran who made over $110 million in salary and millions more in endorsements.  You’re supposed to be able to live off that for the rest of your life.

You’re not supposed to be bouncing millions in checks to casinos and getting taken to court to settle $7 million debts. You’re not supposed to be getting taken to court by your tenants for being a slum lord not able to afford to keep up properties.  You’re not supposed to be on the brink of bankruptcy if you make $110 million. On average, that was over $8.4 million a year for Walker.  You had to mess up awfully bad to have nothing after making $8.4 million a year.

It’s always amazed me how high profile, wealthy people can be in a position to have nothing.  Walker supposedly was a very street savvy and book smart guy. He should have known better.  But I guess it can happen to anyone if they are suddenly thrust into the spotlight with millions of dollars.   “How To Manage New Money for Dummies” hasn’t come out yet, but maybe I should jump on that.

I’d start with an old Lauryn Hill lyric: “It ain’t about what you cop.  It’s about what you keep.”  (note: I miss Lauryn Hill. Lauryn, get on some Lexapro, Prozac, or something, get your head right, and come back to save music.  We need you).  Think of it this way:  If you make $5 million a year, but are spending $5 million and 1 dollars a year, you’re broke.  Then I’d continue with…

Cut Off The Leeches

Walker is a very kind heart according to the report and couldn’t say no to anyone.  Whether part of that was ego and part was sincere, only the Lord knows, but buying houses and diamond watches for family you barely know and friends that just came around to say hi is stupid.  Those are called leeches.  They only want you because you have a fat wallet. Don’t let your ego get the best of you.  Cut them off and move on.  I don’t care if I have $20 in my pocket, you won’t get bus fare if we don’t talk on a regular basis.  It just beez like that…

Stick With Your Own Kind

By kind, I mean those in your tax bracket.  Look up to those doing better than you, but don’t try to spend like them.  Walker was reportedly hanging out and gambling with Michael Jordan, making $1000 bets at the blackjack table into the wee hours of the morning.  The only problem is that Walker’s money isn’t a long as Jordan’s. It doesn’t stretch that far.  $100 million is a lot of money, but combining that with a gambling habit and trying to “keep up with the Jordan’s” will get you broke in a minute.

Defer To The Experts But Be Hands On

You’ll have business managers, managers who managers, accountants, and real estate advisers, but remember they all report to YOU because you’re cutting the check.  Be hands on.  Anyone who works for you will gladly teach you how they do things if you threaten to pull your business if they don’t.  Only a fool wouldn’t question what they do and give total control over to anyone else.  I remember reading that even when Oprah was raking in hundreds of millions (she doesn’t need a last name now; you know who she is), she was still signing her checks personally so she knew where her money was going.  She kept on top of her game, and that’s why she’s where she is.

Exercise Restraint

There’s nothing wrong with having fun and spending money, but don’t be excessive.  Do you really need those new Louie V loafers and Coach purses?  How often will you use them?  Do you really need to have all those cars? You’ve got 5 cars but 1 ass to sit on.  It woudl be smarter to put aside some money for yourself and use the rest to save and pay bills…which brings me to

Pay Yourself FIRST

Treat yourself like a bill and step up an automatic withdrawal to put a little away every payday. I don’t care if it’s $25 ever two weeks.  At the end of a year, that’s $650, which can be a nice little vacation for you if you plan.

I’m no financial guru.  I don’t know all of the in’s and out’s of the financial sector. What I do know though is common sense.  Just use your head for something other than a hat rack and you’ll be OK.  And pay your taxes.  Man up.

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Today we’re going to talk a little bit about “motivational fit.”  Basically it’s how well a person and a certain job or situation are suited to one another and how well people mesh in the overall environment.  You can apply this concept to your work, entrepreneurial endeavors, or your love life.

Too often we try to make things fit where they don’t.  Who knows or cares how or why things fall apart; they just do.  You have to recognize when that happens, man up, and decide whether or not you’ll stick around.  It’s not always easy, and it’s not meant to be.  Staying on the straight and narrow is a tough business, but you d0 what you’ve gotta do.

An example of this is my work with Blockstandard.com.  It’s a collaboration of individuals who wanted to pool thoughts and resources to empower others.  It’s a great concept.  However, we all didn’t have the right motivational fit.  We seemed to have different ideas of where we wanted to be and were going in all sorts of different directions, from marketing to what the focus should be to how to present that focus.   Eventually, I decided to leave the group.

Does that mean they’re bad guys who don’t know what they’re doing?  Quite the opposite.  Pledger, CZA, and Booker are all young lions with a bright future.  I wouldn’t be surprised if we were all reading about them some day doing big things.  I still read their work often for tips and insight on how to improve what I’m doing.

Just because you don’t see eye to eye and even part company doesn’t mean you have to hate and badmouth each other; that would be acting like a lil’ b*tch.  If you don’t see eye to eye, it just means that right now you’re not the right fit.  I’d go back to working with those guys in a New York minute if we could get it right.

Recognize if you’re the right fit or face dire consequences.  It can effect your money, health, and reputation.  I often hear people say that something isn’t the right fit but they’re “going down with the ship.”  That’s some bullsh*t and they’re idiots.  If you don’t feel that you’re the right fit, get off the ship as soon as possible.  That’s resources and time you could be focusing on the right fit for you.  There were a lot of dumb asses that wanted to go down with the Titanic too; they died.  Get the picture?

There’s nothing wrong with saying something isn’t working when it isn’t.  What’s wrong is not being true to y0urself and others that depend on you to give your all when you’re heart isn’t in it.

You can’t fit a round peg in a square hole.  If something isn’t working, say so and bow out gracefully.  That will save everybody a lot of unnecessary drama in the end.

Man ya punk ass up.  Feel free to comment.

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“You’ll never get to be a man unless you get to see a man” – D.L. Hughley from his stand up performance, “Goin’ Home”

You all know by now I love sports.  Love sports.  I think they not only contribute to society, but can reveal a lot about a man’s character.  But sometimes you have to call someone out who just isn’t doing right.

Adam “Pacman” Jones, bring ya punk ass down.  I didn’t put this in the “Just Not Manly” category because of how I hope this works out.

Even if you don’t follow football, you’ve probably heard of him.  He’s had his share of troubles with the law and in general seems to be an asshole.  He’s a young man at 26, but old enough to know better. “Pacman” Jones has been in trouble with the law no less than five times, and from first hand accounts from people I’ve talked with that know and went to college with him, you should multiply that by 10 for the times he should have been.  He was suspended by the NFL and dropped from several teams, most recently the Dallas Cowboys after what seemed to be multiple opportunities to “do right.”  He just seems like a bad seed.

But I can’t put it all on him though.  I started this post with the quote by D.L. Hughley because it’s something I believe.  Jones’ father was murdered when he was 4 and he was raised by his grandmother and him mother, who I have no doubt tried to instill the best qualities they could in him.  It’s not that women don’t try or aren’t put in bad situations.  They do the best they can, but if a man isn’t a young boy’s life, whether it be an uncle, big brother, or a sports’ coach, he’s going to miss a lot.

Now couple that with the fact that he was a star football player (first team All Big East and honorable All American at West Virginia, 6th overall selection in the 2005 NFL draft) and you can guess he probably didn’t hear the word “no” too often.  His misbehavin’ was overlooked because he could intercept passes and score touchdowns.

What he needs is some tough love before it’s too late…and he just might get it.

It’s been reported by ESPN that the San Francisco 49ers are interested in signing Adam Jones. That means he’ll be playing under Hall of Fame Chicago Bears middle linebacker and current 49ers head coach Mike Singletary.    Mike “Samurai” Singletary.  If Jones never got to see a man before, he will now.  I honestly hope the 49ers do sign Jones, and for more than his football prowess.

Singletary is old school.  I mean old school.  He’s known for his hard nosed, take-no-sh*t attitude. When his best offensive player, tight end Vernon Davis, wanted to showboat and cost the team a penalty, he not only sent Davis to the bench, but threw him off the field and sent him to the showers.  Singletary’s philosophy is that no one, not even himself, is above the team and no one will derail what they are trying to accomplish.

It will be love under new management for Jones.  Tough love.  No nonsense love.  Mess-up-and-I’ll-kick-your-ass-all-over-the-field love.

Jones needs that.  A lot of other kids need that too.  They need a man in there lives.  If I could give any advice to Jones, it would be to listen to what Coach Singletary has to say, if just for self preservation. He’s not going to coddle you.  He can help finally make you into a man.

If things work out for Jones, he’ll see a man on the sidelines every day with a headset on directing plays, starting at training camp. Good luck, Pacman.

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I was reading a post called “11 Things Women Wish Men Knew During Sex” on a site called Yeahshesaidit.com (very interesting stuff) which inspired me to write this.  I’m tired of hearing what the women want.  Who rides for the fellas?  Me, that’s who.  So here goes…but of course, with  TrueMan twist…

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What We Wish Women Would Do

1.  Act Like You’re In College Again

In college, you met some of the freakiest chicks you ever laid eyes on.  Down to do anything. Whether it was their new-found freedom or the cheap alcohol (do they still sell Everclear?), a college chick in your dorm room after midnight meant you’d have a very good evening.

Now all of a sudden, she’s too “mature” to do that stuff and has standards.  Are you kidding me?  Remember the 50 yard line on the football field the night of the homecoming game?  Where did that little sex kitten go?

2.  Ditch The Sweat Pants

A nice teddy or silk nightie every once in a while really get a man’s attention.  Wearing my sweatpants to bed with an oversized t-shirt and a headwrap does not.  Get some better bedroom attire.  We have heat in the house and will turn it up if it will get her into some lace.

3.  Face Down, Ass Up

I don’t know a guy that doesn’t have this one in his top 2.  Luke (formerly Luke Skyywalker) of the famed 2 Live Crew had it right.  I actually like the missionary and “female dominate” positions where you face your partner for a kiss or two, but if you really wanna get it in, bend over and touch your toes.

4.  Yes, Her Voice Can Be Annoying

We LOVE to hear our name screamed out loud, but if you sound like Olive Oil or Charlie Brown’s schoolteacher, keep quiet.  That can totally wreck the mood, rhythm, or even…let’s call it “erectness”.  I’ve actually started laughing at times.

5.  Cuddle Ya Damn Pillow

I’m all for a little snuggle time after sex (has to be good sex though), but that hug-me-all-night-like-you’re-a-5-year-old-afraid-of-the-dark thing is out.  The reason?  I CAN”T SLEEP with someone squeezing all the air out of my lungs.  A little while is OK, but eventually, roll ya ass over so you don’t snore in my face and go to sleep.  We both gotta go to work tomorrow.

6.  “Soap and Water…A Toothbrush and A Comb”

Like the song on that old Fat Albert episode, hygiene is important to the fellas too.  Don’t bring yourself in bed with that Summer’s Eve “I just don’t feel…fresh” stuff and expect me not to call you out on it.  Yes, that does matter to us.

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Stuff We Really Don’t Care About

1.  Matching Bra and Panties

When I’m thinking about sex, I can guarantee you,  the last thing I’m thinking is, “If she has that red bra on with those cream panties on again…nah, I can’t do that.”  I don’t give a sh*t.  If you’re standing there in front of us long enough to notice if you bra and panties match, we’ve done something wrong.  They’re supposed to be “off and over there” if we get to that point.

2.  If We’re Getting Along At That Moment

This applies 95% of the time. If we’re in a heated war of words and you start throwing things, I’m not think about sex either.  That being said, men consider most minor to medium level arguments to be separate from our sex lives.

If we could determine who’s right by an all-night-bedroom-romp-lasts-longest-contest (or living room or kitchen..you get the picture), just sound the bell and let’s get it on.  Why do you think there’s “make up sex”? Fighting and sex are not mutually exclusive.

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We have to take a stand as men and let the ladies know what WE want.  If you have anything you want to add, let your voice be heard.

Ladies…I hope this was helpful.

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In a previous post, “Two Weeks Notice“, I told you that I can help you develop a positive habit in two weeks.

Now I’m going to tell you that I can change your short term focus in five minutes.

Before, I mentioned that I was reading a book by Marshall Goldsmith called “Mojo: How To Get It, How To Keep It, How To Get It Back If You Lose It”.  When I read something worthwhile, I like to share.  Even though the book focuses on getting your swagger back for the long term, he also talks about how important it is to have it in the short term.  The “short term” is often neglected in a lot of publications, so I thought this was interesting.

Goldsmith goes on to say that the best indicator of what you will be doing in the short term is what you are doing right now.  I mean right now.  This very second.  As in right now, you are reading (and hopefully enjoying) my blog.

Five minutes from now, you’ll probably be sitting here on the Internet.  And five minutes after that, and five minutes after that.  So you can see how this becomes a chain.  Your short term focus can be broken down into five minute increments.

This time yesterday, you were probably doing whatever you’re doing now.  You probably sit down in the same spot on the same couch and watch the same programs on the same day at the same hour.  We’re creatures of habit.  Whether or not those habits add value or not remains to be seen.  You can see how five minutes adds up.

If something isn’t adding value, including reading my blog, you need to get up right now.  Right now.  I’d rather you go and do something productive than waste you time on something you don’t think will help you.  You need to change what you’re doing right now because you’ll probably be doing this for the foreseeable future.  Do something that adds value to you and provides direction to where you want to go.

Like I said all I need is five minutes.  That should be all you need too.  Let’s see what you’re doing in the next five minutes.

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I wish I could take all the credit for this one but I got the inspiration for it from a conversation I had with Freeman (www.riseandgrind.com).  Thanks.

I have been unmanly lately.  I must call myself unmanly.  Lately, I have not been “TrueMan Approved.”  I’ve been a little bit too politically correct.  I’ve tried to appeal to too many people and not to offend anyone.  I’ve been burning the candle at both ends and in a sense, burned my hands.

F*ck that.  I have to stay in my lane.

Your lane is who you are.  It’s what you are.  It’s your direction and leads to where you’re going.  It’s your core and your foundation.  Once you get away from that, you’re finished.  I can’t tell you to stay in your lane if I don’t do the same.  It wouldn’t be me.

For a while, I got away from that.  I thought that upgrading the site and toning down the posts would be more attractive to you all (even though the slides are really cool).  I tried to say things that people would always agree with so they would read.  But that’s not what people wanted from me.  That’s not what you wanted from me.  That’s not what attracted you to Man Among Boys in the first place.  By trying to please everyone, I pleased no one, especially not myself.  I swerved from my lane.

My lane is calling out these coward-assed dudes like Kanye West (b*tch ass) and triflin’-assed b*tches that aren’t doing right and to straight them out by any means necessary. That’s the service I provide and why you come here. I have to spread the word and help men become better man.  That’s my lane.  That’s who I am.  That’s what I do.

I’m TrueMan.  I gotta be me.  If you get offended, that’s your problem.  Truth hurts.  So in the very near future, expect more of what you should expect from TrueMan.  More of the the real man stuff.  If you stand in the street in my lane, you’ll get run over.  Try me.

The wait is over…the real is back.

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“And my existence, while grotesque and incomprehensible to you, saves lives. You don’t want the truth because deep down in places you don’t talk about at parties, you want me on that wall, you need me on that wall.” – Jack Nicholson as Col. Jessep in “A Few Good Men”

There were four words uttered by golfers on the PGA tour in the past few days…

“Oh, sh*t…he’s back.”

It was reported by ESPN that Eldrick “Tiger” Woods will probably return to golf at the Arnold Palmer Invitational in about two weeks.  He’ll have his share of hecklers, people spitting at him, and womens’ rights groups in an uproar (who gives a sh*t?).  But golf needs him.  It needs him badly.  Viewership and attendance has been down since Tiger took his leave of absence.  Basically, nobody cares to see second tier players on the course.  Say what you want about Tiger, but he is golf.  The PGA and sponsors (Nike kept him without blinking) will welcome him back with open arms and fat checks, no matter how many holes he putted his balls in.

(Note: In my opinion, he got some on the side.  BFD.  The only issue I had with it is how he did it.  See my “Something On The Side – Part 2” post.)

You always need your best guys to play.  No matter what you think about them, no matter how you feel about them, when it comes down to grits and groceries, you want them on your side.  Golf is no different.  Hell, life is no different.  Tiger is a necessary evil to golf, just like Col. Jessup was in “A Few Good Men.”  You may not like him now, but he’s the best.

You’d better get used to this in life, too.  Sometimes, you have to put personal feelings aside and work with people you don’t like because they’re the best at what they do.  I do it all the time.  I work with people I think are assholes, but when I need to best, they’re who I call.  They help you win, whether it’s on a golf course, basketball court, or at a negotiating table.  It might even cost a few chips, but you know you’re getting what you pay for.  When you need to get something done, you go to the best and make it work.

I remember watching a game on Monday Night Football where the Buffalo Bills were playing, and of course the focus was on then Bills’ WR Terrell Owens.  Old senile windbag Ron Jaworski kept talking about T.O.’s issues and how he was a “team cancer” and basically questioned why the Bills got him.  His fellow broadcaster and former championship NFL coach Jon Gruden looked at him like he was nuts and responded,

“Everybody’s saying he’s a cancer.  Let me tell you what a cancer is: a cancer’s a guy who can’t play. Terrel Owens is one of the best WRs ever to play the game. Give me 10 of those.”

He realized that sometimes you have to make a “deal with the devil” to get things done.  Nothing wrong with that. Just like golf is…because they know they need Woods as much if not more than he needs them.  Elin can take half Tiger’s money and he’ll be ok;  I’m guessing he can survive on $500 million.  Golf can die quickly without Woods.

Woods is a necessary evil, just like Col. Jessup.  You don’t want the truth because deep down in places you don’t talk about at parties, you want him on that course…you need him on that course.

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I had an interesting situation this weekend.

I was spending time with the old lady, kicking back and watching TV.  Now she has an issue with my Blackberry.  Sometimes it goes off late at night.  It might be an email from my credit card company with a “friendly reminder” that a payment is coming due or from an old friend that lives out of state that just wants to say “hey”, some male, some female.  We’ve had conversations about this before about what are deemed to be “appropriate” call and text times….which frankly buggs the hell out of me.  I’m a grown assed man.  You don’t tell me when a friend can or can’t text me.

Anyway, this weekend, I just wasn’t in the mood to talk, so I decided to turn my Blackberry off.

“Why you turning your phone off?”

“I don’t feel like talking to anyone.”

“Yeah, whatever.”

This proceeded to turn into an argument about how I’m keeping her in a box because she really hasn’t met my friends and I’m shady for turning my phone off.

Honestly, she hasn’t met many people I know.  We have quite a few mutual friends we’ve known, but other than them, I don’t know many.  A woman will have hundreds of friends, ranging from people she might run into every ten years to old friends she’s known since the second grade.  A man as about 3, maybe 4 people he calls “friends”.  And if we haven’t talked within the last year, don’t try to hit me up on Facebook with a friend request.  You will get ignored without so much as an afterthought.

I’ve got 4, and none of them within what most consider a reasonable distance.  My closest friend lives a little over an hour or so away.  The others live out of state.  We’ve tried to make arrangements to get together but haven’t been able to coordinate schedules.  When I’m not with her or my son, I can be found at the gym or work.  I have a very uneventful life.

I was told I’m “shady” and it isn’t the first time I’ve heard that.  I’ve been accused of doing things I’m not.

There’s an old saying “If you keep knocking on the devil’s door, eventually, he’ll answer you.”  If you keep poking a dog with a stick, eventually, he’ll bit your ass.  If you keep accusing a man of cheating, eventually, he will (not saying I’m going to but you can only push someone so far).

A lot of times, people, particularly women (yes – I’m calling you out), look for things that aren’t there.  You think you have the 6th sense for cheating that lets you know if he is.  I’ve even heard of women checking their man’s pockets for numbers and underwear for “evidence.”  Then, they get surprised if he does cheat.  If he’s going to get accused of cheating and called a dog, he may as well go bury his bone.

If you’re going to accuse a man of playing games and cheating, at least have some evidence.  Don’t go on a hunch.  Don’t go off what your lonely assed girlfriends have to say.  If you have proof, fine.  Until then, stop looking for sh*t to argue about.  Life is hard enough without that.

So ladies, go ahead keep knocking on the devil’s door.  When you see your man inside with his feet up on the couch, don’t say you weren’t warned.

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If you give me two weeks, I can change your life, for better for for worse.  I’m not kidding and I’m not starting an advertising campaign for a cheesy infomercial. I’m talking about creating a habit.

It takes about two weeks to change a goal (something you want to do) create a habit (something you do subconsciously and without any effort).  Two weeks.  Two weeks of solid dedication, whether positive or negative.  You might be questioning “negative dedication”, but all you have to do is look at a smoker that is willing to brave -5 degree weather to rush outside on their break to puff a few drags off a Newport.  That’s dedication for your ass.

Adding or deleting certain things from your life can be tough, but it can all be done in time.  All it really takes it two weeks, and honestly, I don’t care what it is.  Can you put down a cigarette for two weeks to stop smoking?  Can you go to the gym for two weeks straight to lose weight?  Can you stop eating meat for two weeks straight to lower your cholesterol?  Can you tell your subordinates “thank you” for two weeks straight to show them you appreciate them?

Would you be willing to stick to something for two weeks if it could help you?

It’s the concept of “will power”.  It’s not something that can be taught or given.  You have to be willing to get out of your comfort zone for about two weeks until it become a habit.  Then it becomes something as natural as locking your front door when you leave the house.  It becomes second nature.

Here’s a few tips on how to build a habit:

Write It Down

Write down what you are going to do (i.e. – I’m going to go to the gym).  Write it down every day before you do that activity.  Put it up on your calendar and “X” out the day when you’re done.

If you use the Calendar in your PDA or Microsoft Office, that can be a great reminder to do it.

Keep It Consistent

Every day, at the same time, in the same way.  We’re trying to build a pattern and a process.  For at least those first two weeks, there should be no variation.  Do it exactly the same way over and over and over.  Repetition is the key here.

Use The Buddy System

Tell a friend about what you want to do and ask them to keep you honest.  A true friend would be more than willing to help you out.  Their job is to make sure you complete the two weeks without a missing a day.  Whenever they, talk to you, they should make sure to mention your goal.

Get Creative, Especially When It’s Tough

You may need to be inventive when it comes to keeping a habit on track.  For example, I wanted to start exercising before work at about 5am because I got re-railed during the day and didn’t get to go in the evening.  I got through the first few days fine, but then it got a little tough dragging my ass out of bed at 430 AM.

Soooo, I decided I couldn’t brush my teeth until after I got back from the gym.  Yep, I said it.

Now, I couldn’t go to work without brushing my teeth, so logically, I had to go to the gym before going to work.  It was tough and I didn’t talk to anyone at the gym, but in about two weeks, getting up at 430 AM was second nature to me.

The “Why”

You need to focus on the “why”, or the reason you want to move towards your goal. For me, working out (or as the “The Situation” would say, “workin’ on my fitness”) is a way to stay healthy and maintain my sexy.

(Note: Yes, I watched the Jersey Shore. I tried to fight it, but it was like watching a train wreck.  You hated to see the carnage, but you had to watch the crash.  For those of you that don’t like Man Among Boys, “if hatin’ if your occupation, I probably got a full time job for you.”  “The Situation” was the man.)

That’s my “why”.  It might not work for you and you shouldn’t be taking it from me anyway.  Your personal goals are your own and you need to find your own path to make it into a habit.

If you can man up for two weeks and dedicate yourself, you can make your goals a habit.  It will be a rough two weeks, but in the end, you’ll find it becomes second nature and you’ll be a step closer to making yourself a better person.

…like me.  You can catch me in the gym at 5 AM…workin’ on my fitness.

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